So if you don't already know, I've been MIA recently because I finally had my son :) he was born Wednesday March 19th at 7:29am weighing in at 6lbs 8.5oz and measuring 20" long. He was born in a matter of 3 hours and he was (and is) sheer perfection!
As a Christian, for religious purposes we already knew we wanted to circumcise our son from the moment we found out we were having a boy. BUT there were also many medical reasons why we decided that this preventative surgery was the best route to go. My husband worked as a CNA in a nursing home and has seen many issues arise from an uncircumcised man not being able to fully care for himself and needing to depend on an orderly that may not always "have the time" to clean another man.
My husband and I researched many MEDICAL websites and journals online and found that the pros to getting our precious son this 5 minute snip of a surgery was truly for the best later on down the line. And again this was OUR personal conclusion and view point, in no way what so ever am I trying to talk down on parents who choose not to circumcise. Every mother knows what's best for their children.
Like most women these days, I'm obsessed with posting pictures of my kids on FaceBook and InstaGram. After my son's surgery last monday and my husband changed his diaper for the first time he was definitely tired out and had fallen asleep preciously on my chest. I took a picture, posted it to IG and had mistakenly hashtagged "circumcision" on the photo.
I cannot tell you how many hateful, spiteful, vindictive, and just plain cruel comments I got on that photo. One woman said I was "tragically misinformed and should save your future sons from a soon to be outlawed procedure". Another went so far as to 'directly' talk to my son saying "I'm sorry you weren't perfect enough for your mommy baby boy. So sad." And that's only the tip of the ice burg. There were about 40-50 comments that were very close to the same that I just wrote above. Some of my good friends came to help and started to go off on all of them saying that bashing on me was no way to go about getting their 'team uncut' views out to people.
I would never do anything to unnecessarily hurt or injure my son. But my husband, father, brothers, nephews, and other son are all circumcised and my husband, as a man, likes the fact he's circumcised and has the parental right to have his sons the same as him for medical and cleanliness reasons.
It's a very sad day when anyone that has a view different from the world is harassed and bullied the way that the world supposedly is against. I didnt personally know a single woman that went off on me about getting my sons surgery. And you know what their main focus was? 'If he wants to get it done later in life he can' which is all fine and dandy. But getting it done as an adult as opposed to an infant is one of the most painful surgeries because he's grown bigger and there's more complications to the surgery than simply clamping and snipping the foreskin off.
And what did my many friends have to say on the subject? Nothing but good things! I have many girlfriend's who decided not to get their sons circumcised and not a single one bashed me or claimed I was abusing my son for having it done. Just like I wasnt bashing them or claiming their sons will forever be unclean. Its a parental choice. Like breast feeding or formula feeding. Like home schooling or public schooling. Its a parenting choice thats up to the parent NOT a bunch of strangers.
My husband and I didnt decide to get it done because it was the most popular thing to do. We thoughtfully weighed the pros and cons and prayed about it before deciding indefinitely about which route we would go.
The world is falling and becoming such a walking hypocrisy it makes my head spin. They say not to harass those that dont have the same religious views but if the world that is nonreligious in any way views different they have free reign to lay into someone and make them feel inferior? They say bullying is wrong and that we need to all live peacefully together, except in a situation where the world is against someone's religious beliefs and thinks they're wrong? It saddens me and sickens me that we've gotten to this point in this world.
I am one GOOD mother. I may not be perfect and I know I'm always learning and tweaking my parenting styles, but I am not an abuser. I am not neglectful. I am not cruel. Don't agree? I have a full force of friends and family standing behind me stating otherwise. And guess what? Not all of them see things the same way I do. But they sure as hell aren't going to let anyone slander my parenting ability simply because our views are different.
I love my family and friends for always being there for me. But most of all? I LOVE MY CHILDREN. I would die for each of them. Blood or not they're my family and they are a part of my heart that I will protect and cherish until the end of time. And there isn't anything anyone can say to take that from me.
-Mrs. C
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