The Meaning of Life

Isn't it funny how you can walk through life so sure of everything that's happening in your life is the best it can be, and in that you feel secure because you know how good you have it, but then something changes. Something makes you catch your breath and reopen your eyes to the beauty of the world that you were slowly becoming numb to. That's how it was for me last year before I met my husband. Some might think I'm obsessive, some might think I'm eccentric, a select misguided few might even say pathetic. But here's the game changer. If you were once walking around like the best thing that ever happened and then were awakened to an emotion and view so drastically different but so radiantly beautiful, why WOULDN'T you be obsessive or over the top about it?

So much of our lives we desperately seek things to fulfill ourselves. We look to friends, family, spouses, significant others, coworkers, bosses, anyone in our lives that might just give us the answer to the life long question: What's the meaning of life? Now I'm not one with all the answers, but I can tell you what my life's meaning was compared to what it is now. 

Before I met my husband and had my life change, for the better, I was only about money and getting everything I knew I deserved. Trying to get the best job and education I could in a field that not only paid well, but one that I wouldn't feel like I was stuck my whole life. I started working and going to school always with the mind set that once I get a nice, shiny, new car I'll be good. Once I get a nicer apartment I'll be fine. Better make that a house. And while we're at it I might as well throw in a killer wardrobe and seriously extensive makeup collection. Oh, better throw in getting my hair and nails done religiously just to be sure. The list went on forever of what I needed to be happy, what I thought life was about. Acquiring things. But they're just that. THINGS. 

Now here's what it's changed to since meeting my husband and contuing every day to grow closer to Christ. We had a house and moved into a nicer one. That we had to leave because someone didn't believe our financial status, so now we're back at my parents like teens. But our nights are still fun loving and passionate with each other. It may be like high school, but we get to experience the butterflies and nervousness like high schoolers. Which have never truly gone away for me since I met the love of my life. It's about spending as much time as we can watching our kids grow and become so full of life with laughter and smiles that make us forget every stress that's been thrown our way. It's comforting our children after disappointments and kissing their owies away. It's Disney movies on repeat with popcorn and cuddles instead of getting "turned up" every weekend. It's going without date night and new necessities so the kids can have the best of everything we never had. Life is about looking into your spouses eyes and having no doubt or regret about choosing to marry them. It's about being strong when you see that your spouse is struggling with baby blues from their new 'not so hot anymore' body (my husband is a pro at making me feel beautiful and sexy). Life is about anything BUT money or things that money can buy. 

So many people just strive for the face of a good life instead of truly taking advantage of the moments that they're letting slip through their fingers. Even as we speak. I may be broke, wearing old stained and torn clothes, making dinner at home instead of going out, going to the park instead of the zoo, but life is at its fullest right now. Our kids love us and we love them. We know what life is about because our kids have taught us that life is about spending time with the ones you love, not trying to get more stuff. Life isn't a competition yet so many people try so hard to one up whoever they believe their enemy is.

I AM HAPPY. I will always be happy as long as I never let go of what's truly important. My family and friends. Nothing else can compare to the moments they make me laugh or the moments they catch my tears. I am forever grateful and forever in love with what my amazing God has chosen to give to me. 

So open your eyes and see what's important. Put down the credit cards and cash at the mall or online and go make some memories. Forget about everyone and just BE HAPPY. If anyone tries to rain on your parade just tell them to go away and continue to live with happiness in your heart knowing that your kids, spouse, family, and friends will remember you how they should. THERE. Don't be absent from life. Take part and enjoy the ride. Remember, God loves you and will always love you. No matter how far you stray, no matter the evil you've been harboring in your heart, God will ALWAYS love you. And you know what? So will I. Even if you don't deserve it. 

-Mrs. C

Loving Your Spouse Even When It's Difficult

Sorry I've been MIA recently, juggling a newborn and 3 kids while my husband is out of town definitely takes it's toll. Even if two kids were just here for the weekend.

My husband working out of state has been one of the most emotionally stressful times I've gone through. Granted I was a Marine wife once before while he was still active duty but I didn't truly love him like I love my husband now. It's so crazy to look back and compare how I thought I loved my ex to how much I actually love my husband.

Joey has been gone for a week and a half since bringing the kids and myself back after another previous two weeks out of town. And it's killing me. So much is happening while he's gone that every small moment I wish I could share with him. In everything I do or see throughout the day I can't wait to talk to him about it. He truly is the love of my life and he does everything he can to show me that he feels the same way I do.

My whole adult life I've had one really bad and abusive relationship after another. Then I met my husband and everything turned around completely. He made me believe in love and life again. He showed me that there was still beauty in the world. Mostly, he showed me what love really means. He showed me how a real man treats a woman and what I'm worth. He sees the beauty in me every day even when I believe I'm not even close to being decent. When I feel like my world is falling apart he pulls it all together and refocuses me towards Christ and where our marriage should be going.

Over the years I know we'll have fights and doubts; hard times and even harder times; but one thing I will know undoubtedly through it all is that he loves me. I know he loves me more than he's ever loved a woman before. How? Not only does he tell me and show me, but all the time he makes a conscious effort to be on my side and love me despite my flaws. This, without any doubt in my mind, is exactly the kind of love God knew I needed. Without my knowing or guessing,  God literally created the perfect man. Perfect for me that is. He evens me out and completes me. As cheesy as that sounds its so true! He has qualities and traits that I lack and vice versa. Our love is eternal and deep. A kind of love I honestly only thought existed in Hollywood productions.

With that being said... HE COMES HOME THIS WEEKEND! Words cannot express how incredibly excited I am about it AND we might even get a date night courtesy of my parents.

Something that I've learned so far over the past 10 months is that you have to work harder than you thought you needed to keep your marriage passionate and thriving. You can't just let yourself fall into a rut or get into a thought process where you falsely start to believe marriage is give and take. Marriage is 100% give from both spouses. If you live to please your spouse and make them happy, then naturally they should want to do the same for you.

Technically, I'm still a newlywed, but I do know that with all the marital help and tips I get from my Christian motivation pages have helped me see how marriage is supposed to work as opposed to how marriage will inevitably fail. I am so glad that my husband and I BOTH take action every day to make sure our marriage doesn't fall in the cracks of every day life. Even if its a simple moment of sincerity where your raw emotions are being shared with each other.

I love my husband. Every thing good and bad about him makes me love him more every day.

-Mrs. C